It's not exaclty what I was looking for, but it's brutal and honest. Do you every spend so many hours on your knees asking God for something only to have him come back and say "No"? Well I do. I want so many worldly goods. I try to force myself to be calm. Everyday I would like to win the lottery.
Here, I've found that James is telling me (or us) that sometimes when we go out and try to get something ourselves we are actually fighting against what we're supposed to be doing. We're supposed to ask God for what we desire or what we need, and He will give it to us in his time. Or, if we aren't supposed to have it, then He won't give it to us.
Either way, it's not our choice. We place the request, then He decides.
What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don't get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.So go out and get on your knees today!